Drama in relationships is inevitable. But being overwhelmed is optional. We all have an inner emotional climate that is, for us, normal. This is what many of us commonly call our "comfort zone." It's the condition in which we believe things are going well enough, we have adequate resources available, and we have a sense that we can handle things. When other people start messing up our lives, we try to change them, change the situation, or change ourselves to get back to our preferred inner climate control. So how do we deal with these situations when other people “mess with our inner climate control”? We deal with these situations by following God's guide for our lives; the Holy Bible.
Our relationship with God should have a positive impact on our relationship with others. In Romans 12: 9-21 the Apostle Paul writes about how to live with others in a way that leaves space in our relationships for the presence of the Holy Spirit. In these verses Paul gives us specific direction on living peaceably and in respectfully with others – whether Christian believers or not. Jesus taught not to give in to revenge; to leave room for God to work – whether in blessing or in judging, and to love others as we love ourselves.